Being Trans: Personally and Professionally

Personally

Personally

I find it difficult to be trans identifying at this momemt. Personally that is. 

At times, I want to curl into a ball, and put the covers over me, and escape from the world around me. 

At other times, I feel ready to venture out of my corner and slightly into the world. That’s when I check my social media or check out a recent article from Williams Institute. 

Sometimes, I meet up with friends for lunch or coffee or a walk. I try to remember that while I am so scared about the US government and its focus on restricting or eliminating trans rights and our existence, I remember that not everyone else knows this is happening, truly and deeply.

A relative recently asked me if I’ll visit them a lot if they move to Florida and I said, absolutely not, it’s not safe for me. They were utterly shocked. They tried to refute this. I don’t think they meant anything by it, they just didn’t get that while they were talking about me being mugged or murdered, I was talking about not having any rights in Florida, even if the happiest place in the world (Disney world) was still there. I remember hanging up the phone and retreating back into my little corner and reading something about trans joy while taking a few minutes to breathe deeply. 

Professionally

Professionally, I am so proud to be a trans, enby, and intersex clinician at this time. I cannot wait to support my community. I’m gungho and cheerful and ready to fight my way through any laws that could harm my clients. I’m ready to hold space for folks who need time to figure out how they feel or to grieve for the (continued) loss of safety or security. Maybe they want to get through their own pasts utilizing EMDR in order to make it through this time stronger than ever before. Or maybe, yoga therapy is right for them. Whether they want to meet in person or online, I am honored that clients share their most vulnerable selves with me. What a hard thing to do!

I do want to make it clear that while I love my job and I feel honored to do it, I do charge for my services as a psychologist. It is my career and in order to be able to live in our capitalist society, I charge a fee to work with me. While I wish that I could give my services away for free, and still live here in San Diego, I can’t. I work for myself, or, more specifically, for my company, Waves. I love what I do, try to give back to my community, and I need to charge money so that my family (human and plant) is fed and watered properly and that our own needs are met.

Please feel free to reach out should you need support.

You can set up the consultation time here at this website, https://doctorabi.clientsecure.me/ , or send over a text to us at 619-403-5578. You can also press the button below that takes you to the clientsecure site above if that’s easier. You may also leave us a message at that same number. Please tell us the best way to contact you and we will do our best to contact you back that way. If we can’t understand your email, etc., from your phone message, we will call you back at the number you called us from. If you haven’t heard from us in a few days, it’s because your number didn’t come through or it is a major Jewish holiday and we are off for a few days. Please do try us again. We’d love to hear from you.

Waves’ clinicians are happy to work with you to be your full and best selves, whatever that looks like to you. 

We have availability and would love to fill our caseloads with LGBTQI+ people who need our specialized mental health care. Please set up a free 15 minute consultation appointment today to see if we would be a good fit for you.

About Our 15 Minute Free Consultation time
Please note that this is not a first appointment, as you have not signed consent forms stating that we are your therapists and you, our clients. This consultation time is a way for you to ask any questions about how we work or who we are and for us to see if we can be of help to you. If you decide to work with us and sign the consent forms allowing us to work with you, the next appointment would be our first official clinical appointment. 

Other Services Offered With Waves, A Psych Co

We at Waves are happy to support Californians with LGBTQI+ centered therapy services. We listen closely and we don’t shy away from the tough topics. We are kink and polyamory - affirming. We have appointments and can’t wait to fill them with people interested in making their lives better, however that looks like for each person. We provide individualized care as each person has different needs. We have LGBTQI+ - centered mental health care and provide EMDR, talk therapy, and somatic therapy (Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy). Our team of therapists also offers Grief Therapy, Couples and Chosen Family Therapy, Therapy for ADHD, Therapy for Students, Transgender Support, and more! Be sure to check out our FAQs and Blog for more about us and our services!